Relations.. Of all Sorts... Part 2
Back again with Part 2!!! Now, where were we... Yes, we were at the True Love... Go read Part 1 to refresh your memories, darlings...
So, it therefore becomes clear that we need to learn to separate the physical feelings from the emotional, from the intellectual, and so on and so forth.
Since emotion often follows the physical action(s), the only way for 13 to 19 year olds to tell me that they’re ‘in love’ is that the morons have gone and acted on how they supposedly feel. I am not invalidating the way you feel about another person. However, there is more, much more, to a relationship than mere feeling. In teens, such feelings are also known as infatuations. Once infatuated, they feel that they are in love. But hormones are fickle things, and we fall in and out af infatuations as fast as you can say, ‘Peter Piper picked a peck of pickled pepper.’ Don’t be fooled, luvvies…
Don't get me wrong here.. There's nothing wrong with sex and hormones. There's nothing like a good jolt of lust to spice up your life!! I recommend it for people with boring lives. (Have fun, people!!) It was all created by God in the beginning for our pleasure. It's just that people have come along and warped it. Quite badly, I must say. But a good sex drive is healthy, and sex itself has aerobic and emotional benefits. People who have more sex are statisically happier and healthier with less incidence of illness. Plus, in a survey of 3,000 people published in the Decmember issue of Psychology Today, regular sex is worth $50,000 more per year. But, we digress from relationships.
So what does make a good relationship? A good relationship must have a foundation. A relationship without a decent foundation is akin to a house built on sand. The minute conflicts arise, and trust me, they will, the entire construct will come tumbling down around your ears. Not a nice prospect. Painful to boot.
Most of the best relationships I have seen start with a solid foundation in friendship. It is only when two people are friends can they take the time to really get to know one another. Friends have a liberty that couples do not have.
Friends can cheerfully disagree with each other without feeling that the success/failure of the relationship is hanging in the balance. Fights and arguments are allowed without compunction, a liberty that is often not found in a relationship. In a friendship there is no pressure to appear to be someone you are not; and there can be honesty and openness as well. Going out in a group, you can see how the other person interacts with other people; is he/she rude? Abrupt? Dismissive? Inconsiderate? There are many facets to a person; diving into a relationship deprives you of seeing parts of the other that you never knew.
So, people… Be smart. The whole point of a relationship is, eventually, marriage. So, say you are… 16. You plan to get married at, say 27. Now, employing some simple mathematics, we are able to deduce that there is an 11 years time difference here. And you think you’re in love with someone. So. You gonna wait 11 years for the other? Ladies and gentlemen, use your brains!!! You have to get through your ‘O’s, then your ‘A’s/poly, then ladies may go to Uni or start work, and gentlemen, you’re off to serve the nation for two years, letting your brain cells die. (Maybe that’s why you make such stupid mistakes. Too much testosterone in one place. Hmmm…) After the guys get out of the army, there’s Uni for them as well (you get to share 2 years of uni!! Awww…) and then you’re both out into the working world, guys 2 years later than the ladies. Including the fact that you will probably want to work for a couple years to gain some financial independence, employing basic mathematics again, you have at least 10 years to wait.
If you think that he/she gonna wait for you for 10 years, think again.
Be realistic, people!!!!
I shall leave you with this… Tata, darlings!!!
Kiss kiss!!
So, it therefore becomes clear that we need to learn to separate the physical feelings from the emotional, from the intellectual, and so on and so forth.
Since emotion often follows the physical action(s), the only way for 13 to 19 year olds to tell me that they’re ‘in love’ is that the morons have gone and acted on how they supposedly feel. I am not invalidating the way you feel about another person. However, there is more, much more, to a relationship than mere feeling. In teens, such feelings are also known as infatuations. Once infatuated, they feel that they are in love. But hormones are fickle things, and we fall in and out af infatuations as fast as you can say, ‘Peter Piper picked a peck of pickled pepper.’ Don’t be fooled, luvvies…
Don't get me wrong here.. There's nothing wrong with sex and hormones. There's nothing like a good jolt of lust to spice up your life!! I recommend it for people with boring lives. (Have fun, people!!) It was all created by God in the beginning for our pleasure. It's just that people have come along and warped it. Quite badly, I must say. But a good sex drive is healthy, and sex itself has aerobic and emotional benefits. People who have more sex are statisically happier and healthier with less incidence of illness. Plus, in a survey of 3,000 people published in the Decmember issue of Psychology Today, regular sex is worth $50,000 more per year. But, we digress from relationships.
So what does make a good relationship? A good relationship must have a foundation. A relationship without a decent foundation is akin to a house built on sand. The minute conflicts arise, and trust me, they will, the entire construct will come tumbling down around your ears. Not a nice prospect. Painful to boot.
Most of the best relationships I have seen start with a solid foundation in friendship. It is only when two people are friends can they take the time to really get to know one another. Friends have a liberty that couples do not have.
Friends can cheerfully disagree with each other without feeling that the success/failure of the relationship is hanging in the balance. Fights and arguments are allowed without compunction, a liberty that is often not found in a relationship. In a friendship there is no pressure to appear to be someone you are not; and there can be honesty and openness as well. Going out in a group, you can see how the other person interacts with other people; is he/she rude? Abrupt? Dismissive? Inconsiderate? There are many facets to a person; diving into a relationship deprives you of seeing parts of the other that you never knew.
So, people… Be smart. The whole point of a relationship is, eventually, marriage. So, say you are… 16. You plan to get married at, say 27. Now, employing some simple mathematics, we are able to deduce that there is an 11 years time difference here. And you think you’re in love with someone. So. You gonna wait 11 years for the other? Ladies and gentlemen, use your brains!!! You have to get through your ‘O’s, then your ‘A’s/poly, then ladies may go to Uni or start work, and gentlemen, you’re off to serve the nation for two years, letting your brain cells die. (Maybe that’s why you make such stupid mistakes. Too much testosterone in one place. Hmmm…) After the guys get out of the army, there’s Uni for them as well (you get to share 2 years of uni!! Awww…) and then you’re both out into the working world, guys 2 years later than the ladies. Including the fact that you will probably want to work for a couple years to gain some financial independence, employing basic mathematics again, you have at least 10 years to wait.
If you think that he/she gonna wait for you for 10 years, think again.
Be realistic, people!!!!
I shall leave you with this… Tata, darlings!!!
Kiss kiss!!
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